Family dinners still slip past you
You catch the gist, but the jokes, the nuance, the warmth between the words still need translating.
Your in-laws are polite, not close
They still switch to English for you. You want them to relax fully, to forget you're "the one who doesn't speak it."
You can't help on the Urdu side
You want bilingual kids, but you can't read to them, correct them, or write the language yourself.
You plateau at "polite guest" level
You manage greetings and small talk, but you can't yet hold your own in a real, fast, emotional conversation.